I know what I want. I want the marriage I went the family I want her...But only under my terms. I need to know she has grown from this, I need to know that she understands the dynamics of an affair and how love is just not about a bunch of hormone charged feelings found in an affair. I couldn't stay married to her If I thought she felt true love were based on feelings found inside an addiction. These are things she will have to figure out for herself. I DO WANT THE MARRIAGE. I just don't know where to go from here. I had a long term plan that only took me to this point (breaking up of the affair and having my wife see him for who he is), but where do I go from here is the question. I got a DB coach and will ask her but I am curious to know what the community thinks.
