I was thinking more about unintended STDs. You don't know where his head is right now. Either one of them.
This is also a good point; just because you have no evidence of, or reason to suspect, an affair does not mean that one isn't going on.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement