Neck sounds painful Cas, please get it checked although as you say the paleness is probably from sleep due to unnaturally lifting your head!
So good to hear that you got an invite to his house, a big little step I too wonder what is in H's "my place" he never calls it home refers to our house as home!
Love the thoughtful dropping off some dinner for him, and letting D take it in so it wasnt too much was a great manouvre, definitely keep it simple, things always work for me when I just keep backed off and things simple!
Will keep checking in to see how your going!
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I too wonder what is in H's "my place" he never calls it home refers to our house as home! 
