I'm so sorry, Indy & pitin. Detaching and starting over is SO difficult. We all deserve happiness & a W who loves us. I hope we get there some day soon.
I'm almost relieved that my W will be out of the house soon. I don't know how much longer I can live like this.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
I forgot to mention that my W asked me for decorating advice for her new apt. Actually for our son's room at her apt. Seriously. What's next? She'll ask me to help her move?
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
PDT & sandi....Really? Is that "normal"? I almost laughed in her face when she asked for my opinion on decorating our son's room...like I'm going to help my W in her efforts to leave me. What nerve.
Back to the day-to-day...The holding pattern continues. W moved some small stuff last night & did some shopping for her apt while I watched our S. I must say...I'm very surprised at the financial committment W is making. It's not like some S's where a spouse stays with friends or family. She's taking very little from our house so she's spending a lot of $$$ on furniture, etc. That tells me this isn't going to be some short term S. W is moving out permanently. Even though we're still calling it a S & W said she's not filing for D right away, I really don't see any chance of things winding up any other way.
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Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
I must say...I'm very surprised at the financial committment W is making. It's not like some S's where a spouse stays with friends or family. She's taking very little from our house so she's spending a lot of $$$ on furniture, etc. That tells me this isn't going to be some short term S. W is moving out permanently.
Yes, really.
As for the above, I wouldn't draw any final conclusions about this, one way or another. All this means is that in her CURRENT state, SHE thinks this is permanent.
My wife also thought that she would work full-time, get some add'l government assistance, and move into a townhome with OM. She's now home with me, not working at all (as she prepares to start her own business), and hasn't talked to OM in two years.
I'm trying. I'm not obsessing about things like I was a couple weeks ago...so that's a step in the right direction.
Now I know I'll have a hard time "not caring" what W is doing once she moves out. I'm sure my mind will wander & I'll imagine her dating up a storm & having nightly sex romps with other men. But I'll just have to deal with those thoughts as they come. Keeping myself busy will certainly help. I don't want to be sitting around my house wondering what she's up to. I'll probably need some help from you guys if I start to slip. Just saying that ahead of time because I know how I can be.
Thanks!
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
I just received an e-mail from my W with a list of the things she wants from the house to make her and my son comfortable at the place they are staying. I am trying not to let it bother me, but it really makes the sitch much more real.
I am the point where I am just SO angry! I am trying to ignore her right now because I don't want say anything out of anger. It hurts me so much because I would like to speak to my son (he is only one so really doesn't know the difference but I just like to hear him try to say "hi"), but in order to talk to him, I need to go through her. I feel like it gives her the upper hand.
Me 44/W 32 S1 M8 Bomb 9/25/09 Separate houses (about 1 hour apart)
