Newbie with almost WAW - Need Advice

[TrentC]

Whether she stays or goes (still don't know), do you have some suggestions for 180s that might make a powerful statement to her given my recent history of apathy and depression?

Apathy? A good 180 would be to find some new interests or hobbies to pursue (or old interests to pick up again; is there anything you stopped doing when you got married?)

Depression? "Act as if" when she's around. Practice detachment.

Remember, 180s aren't about making statements to your spouse. They're things that you want to do for yourself; the statement that comes out of those is that you will be a happy and healthy person regardless of if she is in your life or not.

Thanks for the advice, I do feel myself getting stronger as I am no longer emotional at all around her. This was my first big 180. Just don't know how I should act if she remains in the house.

Loving detachment. Act as if.