Thanks for checking up. Looks like you have found a good place for you right now, glad to see it.
I am actually going well. I had my second session with my DB coach, took my my top ten list of items from my sitch that were filling my headspace and either came up with a mental positive tape to play when those items come up (always works for me), or a method to deal with them. I have been sleeping much better and using that headspace to plan to kickstart my career again, my next years main goal brought a bit forward.
H seems to still be taking baby step in a positive direction (at the moment!). Is spending as much time at home as he did pre-crisis, things are a lot more relaxing in the evenings after kids are in bed now, he is including me in his plans 1 year down the track (again this week!). Biggest difference would be need to control me and life seems to be winding back. Happy for other people to decide what to do on the day to day stuff now. Just starting to talk to me about fears such as aging etc. He has started planning for the future for the first time in several years. Relaxed when home, but still completely withdrawn when away at work. Still distant affection but more relaxed body language. Changes noted by me, as a good few weeks, could be anything or most probably nothing.
But I am feeling much better and more powerful than I have for a long time. Tis a nice change!
