Could you please tell me whether you want to stay in or get out of your marriage... so I can be on your side?
I don't know. Most times your wife sounds really immature and is at present taking you very much for granted, i.e., kids, money, house, etc. When you are in love with someone, that probably isn't so much an issue. When you are really angry at them, it becomes the biggest of issues.
I'm sure you are both angry and in love with your wife right now. You seem to be walking the middle of the road very well with her, but I'm wondering if there isn't some very real, underlying power struggles going on between you. It almost seems at times like the two of you are playing a bizarre game of 'chicken' with each other.
Right now, with you not reacting the way you 'normally' do, it seems to me she is acting like a child who is getting away with something, almost like she is goading you, but as soon as you start seriously talking about relationship issues with her, she crumples up and goes into 'avoidance' mode.
I can't tell with you what you really want from her. In your most recent posts, though I know you are venting, it seems deep inside you feel very taken advantage of -- yet you remain at home, refusing to leave, and continue to place yourself in a situation where you allow yourself to be taken advantage of.
What gives? Am I reading this wrong? I don't mean to come across as disrespectful, but something just doesn't seem to be jiving with me.
