Before she did she again said she was going to speak with her lawyer tomorrow and that if I slandered her name she would sue my ass.
She's bluffing about suing you; she wants you to stay quiet.
Well, she may not be bluffing, but her divorce lawyer may ask her to reconsider if it means that you start bringing in evidence that's she's having an affair. (You don't need to know what the messages say if you can show that she's texted him 2700+ times in a month.)
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement