Thank you for clarifying that all up for me : ) and Ask me anything, anytime, with all the help you've passed on to me, it's the least I can do!
Kimmie Lee,
Without getting into too many of the details on this site, my ex has some issues he may be unaware of and it is interrupting the "passion" part of his being. I've talked all about this with my very excellent counselor. I know that in saying this it would seem I don't accept him for who he is. Truth is, I love him, always did, always will. We have a great friendship now and we respect each other, not to mention parent our s better than we ever have these days. However, I would need for him to work on his part of the relationship so that it doesn't lead to the same result (which I tell myself it wouldn't, but to be fair to both of us, it would be beneficial if he would be willing to try) I look at it more this way: If someone has a wound, I'd like to see it heal, it doesn't mean I don't love the person for who they are, I just want to see him feel better and be able to do fun things again. So, 1st my Ex has to want to reconcile but now we're just friends and 2nd, if he decides that's what he wants, then I will suggest the therapy and knowing him, I know he would agree. Only thing I'm nervous about lately is that we've established such a working friendship, I hope he doesn't settle for just that, and not pursue more of a romantic relationship....at some point...
