I'm sorry, but ALL CHEATERS LIE -- period. The sooner you come to grips with this, the better you will be, emotionally. Assume the worst (full-blown PA) at this point, and act accordingly.
I know how you feel, man. My wife (then 47) had an affair with her 28yo personal trainer. We were on the throes of divorce, twice, but are now reconciled.
Is this really a surprise to you? 2700+ text messages?? What else is going on in your marriage, life? Any kids?
The more you can tell us, the more we can help. For right now, DON'T DO ANYTHING. Do NOT confront her, do not reveal that you know. If you think you can handle it, you may want to try to get some more intel.
