Hey JR, I'm so glad to hear the energy that comes through in your words as you write about talking with your boys -that's just wonderful - for them and for you.
Not sure what to say about your W's silence - other than to say that it must be what she needs right now for herself - and as hard as it must be to accept it, maybe that's all you can do. Any effort to break her silence could be seen as an intrusion on your part.
As for Christmas...I don't know what to say...Perhaps a gentle reminder of your email if she doesn't respond by Wed - just letting her know that it's important - and that you just want to make sure you have the time off to spend with your boys...
