Sweetheart I am so glad you did not listen to my first post and try to "protect" your H from more pain. Especially after what he said regarding his family in past times. It sure made me stop and rethink! There were so many here praying and pulling for you that it seemed as if it could not have gone any better.
You did the right thing and now you feel free as a bird and ready to really start fresh with a brand new R. I'm so happy for you!
Hope you will stick around b/c I remember what great posts you wrote before. You can be a wonderful help for folks.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!