You seem such a different person now that you have found that you don't need your wife to validate your worth. And I am so happy for you. That is all I've tried to say to you, perhaps badly at times, through our interactions.
If your wife feels the sting of you moving on, well, read some of your early post and perhaps your guilt? will be a bit assuaged a bit.
Take care.
I'm a man . . . But I can change . . . If I have to . . . I guess . . .