Didn't expect this... and didn't know how to react. frown

Mondays H comes to visit the kids while I go to my recovery/support group. On Sunday he texted me confirming he'd be at the house by 6:30, but he showed up at 6:20. I was totally surprised and expected to not be home when he arrived.
I didn't know how to react and felt like a deer caught in the headlights. I ran out the door and jumped in the car while he was getting out of his. We exchanged a friendly hello and I told him he had to pick up D at the barn and he said it was fine. I'm confused with how I felt. I guess I'm getting detached?

Then, somehow I had a feeling that H was going to be at the house when I got home. I ran a couple errands to kill some time, but yep, he was there. I was not sure what to do. I walked to my room to leave my purse and then walked into the family room to see the kids. He greeted me and hugged the kids goodbye. I kissed the kids hello and then he told me bye and thanks for dinner. I guess these are baby steps, but I'm trying to not have expectations.

So many things went through my mind. I was afraid he would want to have R talk. I've had more contact with H today than in 3 weeks! So glad I didn't see his anger or rejection.


M40, H39
M17 T20
D13, S12
H moved out 05/09
D filed 1/10