Quote: She told me she was telling me she bumped into her attorney today. He asked her how things were. She said ok, she then said he thought he heard things were a lot better. I don't know what things she meant. I'm not sure why she told me she bumped into her lawyer.
This is easy, she is telling you she has back off the divorce, she can't come right out and admit it.
This of course would be a dream come true. I'll have to keep my eye out for other signs while not getting my hopes up too high. Over the past couples days, she has talked to me more than she has in the past few months since this mess started. Some of the talk is D and money talk. Some is work related stuff and the rest is the upcoming holidays and general stuff. I've noticed a little change in behavior. Since this stuff started, if she were to come in after I was in bed, she wouldn't come to the room to change or anything of the sort. Over the past week when she comes in, she has been coming in and of course turning on lights and bumpin' and bloopin' in what I think is an effort to wake me up. She then starts talking about what ever. I hope this is a good sign.
Quote: I will still have to think of a way to get through to her and aknowledge the hurt that I caused. I just don't have a clue right now as to how to do that.
Active listening, VALIDATE, VALIDATE, VALIDATE, not to mention saying you are sorry 1000 times.
This is on my game plan. I stopped going down the cheesless tunnel by defending my points of view. I appear to agree with her which on some points I do. Why fight. Sun Tsu something to the effect that feigned weakness is born of great strength. I'll just bend in her wind rather than try to stand in it and be snapped.
Quote: It's not the baby let's forget this D stuff and jump in the rack. But I'll take what I can get.
Whats with jump in the rack, are you letting the old ways, interfere with your present thinking. Is this attitute sp creeping in your interactions, and she is picking it up.
Do you know her 'LOVE LANGUGAGES".
Yea, I know my words make me appear to be 1 dimensional with only one thing on my mind. I have other things on my mind but this is heavy on it of course. You could very well be right when you say this attitude maybe creeping into my interactions. I have to find a happy balance I reckon.
As far as love languages, I don't understand that concept. I guess I'll have to google it up and see what you're saying.
