Can I save my marriage?

[ClingingToHope]

As for bringing his other activities up, mild indifference will work here too. "Oh, that's nice." "Hmm." "Good for you."

My W has done that to me. In the three months I've been in my apartment, she's had six weekends as a "single" woman.

She was spotted at the county fair with an OM. She said they are just friends. I actually believe her. She's way to anti man right now to jump into another R.

Then she went with a coworker to see the coworker's husband's band play. It was in a state north of us and she had her mom watch the girls so she could stay out all night. It was actually my weekend to have the kids, but I had to work on a Friday night.

Then last week in the middle of a talk about D and finances, she brought up the fact she was out with a sl*tty friend of hers who has been married twice, cheated on both, and they went to a bar owned by a friend of mine. She was upset a couple of my friends were mean to her. Although she said a couple of others were "nice."

The first two times hurt. I spent a lot of time wondering what she was doing. The third time I didn't really care. The people she is hanging with aren't a bunch of fun. They just hit dive bars.

I gave her a bit of her own medicine this weekend. The girls were sick -- it was her weekend -- and I offered to help out by taking one to the library. I told her I could only do it for four hours because I was going to Chicago.

In Chicago, I texted her to tell D10 I'd just passed Barack Obama's house.

I didn't go to Chicago to make W jealous. I have friend there who invited me to hangout. We met a ton of her friends. Stayed out until 2 a.m. and talked until 4 a.m. I'm not her type. She was friends with W back on a dance team and I was telling her my story and she was giving me insights.

I posted the pics of me smiling with my friend and her friends on FB and made it available for anyone to see. If it gets back to her, all the better.

Long story short. Get going on GALing and if the opportunity arises, don't be shy about it. Let the WAS wonder what you are doing. When the whole process starts, the LBS usually is in pity mode. Getting out of that flips the script.