I would like your opinion. I'm in Limboland. I've given her space to heal and do what she needs to do. But when does giving space turn into crossing a boundry and having no respect for me and not loving me.
She has stated that the only reason that I'm here is that I really have no place to go and financially we couldn't stay in the house and would have to move. She could kick me out just as fast because of my previous behavior and has cause to do so.
I believe she is testing me because I said something to her a couple of weeks ago about being out until 3 in the morning.
I love her and realize she doesn't trust me anymore. I also realize she enjoys her single life and doing what she wants to do.
The only way I see this playing out is if I go all they way and get a lawyer, realtor and head in that direction full steam.
She views me standing up to her as more controlling behavior. If I show up with boxes she will kick me to the curb. She has me bent over a barrel and she knows it.
I am working on dealing with my anger, counseling, Love without hurt, praying. I've done a great job in that department. Even my kids have made comments on how well I've done.
This begs the question, How long do I stay?
I can tell her things need to change but I need to do it without coming across as a Controlling SOB. Breakaway is that even possible.
You can't wait for the other spouse to lead you out of "limboland", that decision will always be up to you. How do you get out of limboland? You chart the direction for yourself to leave limbo and it doesn't matter if she joins you or not, you make the decision, you move on.
Still waiting to hear JTJ, what is it that you did to your wife? You know these forums and the internet in general afford us alot of anonymity, you can be honest. Honestly you might be judged and judged harshly for what you did to your wife but if you want help that is focus on what you did and how to repair that damage, it will help to know what happened.
