Woke up and the fogginess of my night out started to wear off. I had a great and super fun time being out with family and friends last night. And I am a very fun, laughing, flirty, ready to party type of drinker, which is always a good thing! When I got dropped off back at home last night is when my downward spiral started to occur.
Coming home to this soul-less house with no H, no kids, and no animals, just me all by myself is when the come-down, the low, and the emptiness just became all-consuming for a little while. Plus, for the past few weekends I have been gone and spending the weekends with other people, so this was the first time I had been home on a weekend like this for a while. Add in the mix of crazy, confusing events from H earlier in the day and voila, the recipe for my meltdown was created.
I'm proud that I didn't do anything stupid and make any calls or send any texts. That was one of the hardest things for me to put a stop to in my early DBing because that used to be par for the course for me when I drink too much. Either to call and/or text and let H know I'm having a great time, woo-hoo, etc. or to rip into him and then cry asking him why.
Got another cute picture message from H of H's bro's kitten, (I know, I know, AGAIN) earlier this afternoon with text part that just said "omg." I never texted back yesterday and ain't gonna either today. I don't know what his deal is. This is the only possible thing that he has right now to be connected to me by is all I can think...? Really has nothing else and no other reason to text or call me for so just keeps using these pics...?
Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
Thanks R2C! I love rollercoasters, but geesh, was I ever ready to get off the one I was on over the weekend!!!
Today - H broke routine and didn't come home this morning before work. (Was wondering when that would start.) H called late morning and I didn't answer the call. No voicemail or text after. I am figuring now that if it's important he will leave a message or text me. Later this afternoon, got a text from H "Did you get the pics of Bro's kitty I sent you on Saturday?" Waited over an hour and just texted back "Yah - cute".
Also saw my counselor today. He is very supportive of everything and wants me to keep detaching and GALing more too. So, gonna keep moving along with me and doing the best me I can do.
Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
...Later this afternoon, got a text from H "Did you get the pics of Bro's kitty I sent you on Saturday?" Waited over an hour and just texted back "Yah - cute".
Waiting was good. Who do you think is on his mind when you do not answer......
Who do you want on his mind?
Personally, I would reply with something "Unexepected" or not at all. "Thanks for the pic, my friend thinks the kitten is cute".
Now who is on his mind?
PS: I think the kitten is cute, so you are telling the truth...
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Ok, I am just not getting this kitty picture thing.
Does he think that kitty pictures make up for the fact that he's gone....?....or what?...huh.....?
It would annoy the sh!t outta me, and I would not respond to stupid kitty pictures.
I suspect that he's afraid to reach out in a genuine manner, so he's sending her harmless stuff as a method of temperature-taking.
I agree. Start responding as ready2change suggested -- polite but don't let him rope you into meaningless conversation. When he has something important to say, he will.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
