Is this the end of my marriage?

[P17]

You'll get varying -- and DEEPLY HELD -- opinions on this, P, but my own decision was that I was only ok with it if my wife and I agreed to it mutually, once we separated.

Well I told my W that I was going to date. And as she is already living with her OM I don't see that she wouldn't be okay with it.

The funny thing, of course, is that whereas SHE was always the one that had wanted to (even said it was a "dealbreaker" if I would only do S instead of D if we didn't date other people), now all of a sudden SHE was the one that didn't want us to date other people!!!

Puppy

I remember reading that Puppy. In my case I really don't think my W actually cares one way or the other. so I don't think she'll come running back if she finds me with somebody else.

What worries me is that I am horrified (and rightly so) that my W is with OM and they are having sex - she's committing adultery. If I do the same, how does that make me any different? I'm just wondering if there is a road back from that to R the M ...

I'm just morally confused and wondering how it will affect the DB'ing. Maybe this is the right way to go or maybe it will kill the M completely.

Never been here at all so throwing it out there for people to help.