A Little Epiphany - (and a newbie delurking)

[Kettricken]

H (taking my hands): They can stay. I accept you. He is a part of your past, and in accepting you, I accept him and them, too.

I would first acknowlege the spirit of this appreciatively and as being true and workable for him, and then go on to say something that expresses this --

I think the cookbooks and the jammies need to go, regardless of his generous statement. I'm not going to comb through the house looking for possible gifts of hers to make him get rid of, but these items will remind *me* of OM every time I touch them.

-- as being *your* truth, then act accordingly.

So nobody can, in the absence of open communication, get the impression that anyone is feeling pressured or P/A guilted into anything.