I have friends like that too - who keep telling me that H is just a jerk and I need to move on. I struggle with that b/c I'm a people pleaser, but I've followed other peoples "advice" for too long (that's part of what got me in this mess in the first place), so I finally just had to say to myself, this is MY marriage and I want to save it. To my firends, I just tell them that they need to be open with me doing this b/c I need to know that I tried everythiing possible to save my marriage (esp when a child is involved).
It's good to hear things are going pretty smoothly. Just keep showing him the woman he fell in love with!
Regarding holidays, try not to worry about what "might" happen. You can only live in the now (my C said there was some book by that title that was supposed to be good on that subject). Obviously don't be naive either, but don't worry about it now, but instead find things that you can do NOW to keep him focused on u, the R, and your family as a whole.
One last note, if H does suffer from clinicial depression, just keep an eye on it cause it can be very cyclical (good for days, weeks, moths at time, then back to depressed mode). Just a heads up (been dealing with H's depression now for 1.5 years now & watching all the ups and downs).
Good luck! Keep us updated!
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
