Quote: BR: How about starting a new thread in the Newcomers section? I think those people are more experienced with dealing with infidelity and can help give you suggestions as to how to deal with the alien who is occupying your wife's body.
We will all follow you there and offer advice too (you won't get rid of us that easy) but I think they will be able to tell you what actions will work the best right now.
Regarding the haircut, I am of two minds on this one: On one hand, I think she is testing you to see if you are still willing to work with her. On the other hand, I think she is living in this world where only herself matters.
Perhaps you could ask her: "Am I to understand by you wanting me to pitch in, that you are willing to reconcile and work on our marriage?" That is prolly horrible DB'ing advice, so before you act on it, be sure and stop by the other areas of this website and get some feedback from other people who are dealing with the fallout of infidelity.
Hugs, Honey
Thanks Honey. I may just start a new thread soon. Just here to check things and give a new update as far as last night. W comes in at a time consistent with the closing of her biz. We'll see if that happens again tonight. She then comes in and talks as if things are normal telling about a new lunch menu I should try at one of her haunt. I'm not sure I want to go to that place. I've seen the member cards of the guys who own/run the place on the bathroom counter. I've always wondered about that. I didn't stay up to talk to her. I just decided to go upstairs and watch tv. Not much there. Other than her trying to get me to run the D around on Saturday, she asked me to contact a person at the bank to ask about a re-fi on the home equity line. I don't think I want to do that right now. I don't want to put my name on anything.
I did start going to lunch more and more with the ladies at my job. They've been asking but I've said no. But I thought the other day, I'm tired of not being friends with female coworkers just because W may get mad and suspect cheating or something. It refreshing to go to a lunch. They tease because I won't sit with my back to the door. They think it's because W may come in. She knows already I'm sure. Mutual big mouth friend saw me. But who cares! I don't. Saw a care that looked like W's in Burger King lot. She was supposed to be at Sams. I didn't bother to confirm it was her or not. I just kept going to Costco. Sams lost a customer not that it matters. We'll see what happens later.
I'm looking forward to the weekend. I'm going to hook up with my brother his lady, my cousin and his lady and go to the movies and maybe get a drink or something afterwards. I will be like a 5th wheel but what the heck. I'll be out in the world doing things. I'm also going for my every 2 week manicure. And I think I want to get my ear pierced again. My old dress code forbid it. But now, I want a change.
