Not Me...Ever part 2

[Serenity13]

Trent -

Perfectly worded -

I feel the same way but if we could change the past we wouldn't be in these situations, right?

We live and learn. We can't be perfect, no matter how much we want to be (and our spouses try to make it).

I wish all days were easier however some just are harder then others no matter how we try.

Must be a Monday thing because I have seen it around the board numerous times today

[TrentC]

I wish all days were easier however some just are harder then others no matter how we try.

Must be a Monday thing because I have seen it around the board numerous times today

Heh. I've been enjoying the forums today as well -- some new people and following some existing situations as well.

I have to be careful reading DB.com as I'm at work, but I have an alt contact in my profile.

[Serenity13]

I am at work as well and have spent half the day (so much for working lol) reading the thread Coach recommended to Gardener - Bowtech's Notes.

Absolute treasure trove of information - Some things I knew and some I didn't.

I am now taking notes

[TrentC]

That is a great thread as well. I'm thinking of printing it out.

[Serenity13]

I just can't believe I missed it with all the time I spend here...

I am printing out a portion of it -

"The indications you might be losing your faith"

More then any other day, I needed to read that today

[Gardener]

Coach had an even better one about his own successful busted divorce with Greek. It was entitled FILM STUDY - WHAT WORKED.

If I remember correctly, the film reference was acknowledging that his (all) DBing is like the movie Groundhog Day:Ya just keep repeating the exact same day over and over, screwing it up later and later in each day until finally you get it all right and do it all right for the right reasons and in the right sequence.

It was all great advice. I remember it being peppered repeatedly throughout with:
"Worked on myself. Worked on myself. Worked on myself."

[Serenity13]

I haven't had a chance to speak to Coach much unless he pops by here and gives me some very good advice - I don't think I have ever spoken to Greek.

I do know that the advice I get from Coach and Puppy seems to work the best for the most part - Even though I will admit I fight it every step of the way - Once I stop fighting and implement their advice, I see results quicker then when I do it my way...

Yes I just publically acknowledged I am wrong

[TrentC]

Yes I just publically acknowledged I am wrong

S'OK, we won't tell anyone.

[Serenity13]

LOL Thanks Trent -

Puppy should like the acknowledgement because from day one I fought his advice tooth and nail...

He came on my post almost daily with advice I either didn't agree with or basically didn't like yet he still came...

He never gave up on me from the beginning and today many months later, I can honestly say, I respect his advice more then any other on here (no offense to anyone at all) because he made me take a very long, hard look within myself...

He showed me how to weed out what I didn't need, draw strength from what I already had, take a stand for what I believed in, guided me on the next move each time I asked, let go when I needed to let go and draw closer to God when I had no other option. He gave me permission (so to speak) to cry, to be angry, to hurt, then he showed me how to move forward from that...

He didn't let me fall when I was so close to hitting the ground and not getting back up...He has been tough as well as kind and I thank God every night for that, for all the people I have met here and for the ones who haven't found their way here yet.

Advice just for the sake of advice - Listen very well to the ones who have been here longer. (Puppy, Coach, Wifey etc...) They do know what they are talking about.

I know personally every fiber of your being will scream they are wrong, they don't know my spouse, they don't know what they are talking about, my sitch is different (excuses we all use at one point or another) etc...

However they do know - Don't fight it like I did and waste precious time...

Time I could have used to heal a little quicker...

Time I could have used to shield my sons' a little faster...

They are here for us, to help in any way they can - Listen to them.

[TrentC]

Coach had an even better one about his own successful busted divorce with Greek. It was entitled FILM STUDY - WHAT WORKED.

Google to the rescue! Here is the thread.