Recovering yourself from all this

[ClingingToHope]

THis morning I was thinking "Why is it we still love the WAS, even after they have found someone else and moved on?"

My STBX doesn't have any desire to bring our family back together. So why does it take so long for us to give up the 'hope'?

I read a book after I moved out, "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolles. It was about staying in the moment. Another chapter, though, was on relationships. His point is that many, many people don't actually love their spouse, they are addicted to being in a relationship.

I've been trying to figure that out. Do I really love my W or do I love the family unit, knowing I don't need to make plans every weekend, having someone to talk to -- no matter how cold she was -- at the end of the day?

Think about that. Is it the family ideal you miss or the actual person?