My WAW and I are in initial stages of D. I'm GALing and investing a lot in the evenings and weekends I have with our 3 small kids - D4, D2, S2 (twins!). She gets them for Christmas and I have them for Thanksgiving.
My question is what/whether to get my W anything for her Bday next week. Part of our problem is that I never invested much thought into gifts for her. Wish I had. May have prevented the unloved, unappreciated conditions that led to her SA -- which now appears to be over.
Anyway, her parents are taking her to Napa Valley for a week of wine tasting over Thanksgiving. I've thought about getting her a $25 gift card at her favorite restaurant up there, and a $25 gift card to her favorite place here in our town (where we used to go for our infrequent date nites).
Or should I detach completely and just get her a simple card?
An interesting wrinkle (or guide) will be to see what if anything she does for my own Bday which is the day after tomorrow.
