The DB two step

[Dr LOve]

as Saffie told no code "rubbing her nose in it"

Huh?

Sorry No Code I meant Hope4 Yes WDID was right

"You REALLY think it's about that? Feels to me like rubbing her nose in it. Sh!t, I am in the same position that you are but I think that is just a bit too much. Your W can feel bad about what she's done without that step. I don't believe she doesn't get it. But honestly, there must be a difference between her moral compass and yours because she DID cheat and she KNEW what she was doing at the time , and she DIDN'T give a rat's a$$ about OM's W at THAT time so why should she now? Feels to me that it would be about you seeing your W jump threw hoops to show YOU something."

Yes JoJo things are much better. Not only am I still doing LITTLE things for her … she also starting to do them for me also She is More interested in what I am doing... more interested in my opinion…and there is some other small stuff like I had cut down some red eucalyptus trees and they stained my shirts. Wife had washed them but the stain did not come out and she left them on my bed to put away. I asked her if she tried using bleach. And she said she usually does not use bleach. Well that was a few weeks ago. Yesterday wife out of now where asked me what kind of stains they were. I said I think they are from the Red Euc. She said she has been going on line to figure out what she can use to get the stain out and she bought some borax to see if that works.
Now these are old shirts so it really does not matter I was just asking if she tried bleach...

Now it’s not all sunny here…every once in a while she slips back (and so do I) and does do some things that I used to take personal and have a pet peeve about… One is with our son. Sometimes when I correct him on something she steps in and starts defending him or making an excuse for him instead of backing me up or staying silent in front of him. Now if she wanted to discuses the issue with out him in the room that would be fine. But to “Correct ME” in front of him undermines my authority. In the past this would get me into a funk but I have let that go also….but for the most part things are good and getting better. Looking back I guess I was acting like a hurt kid looking for love in my pursuing...

Doc