Wouldn't know what was gained or lost until after the fact.
Best case, I get the experience of being on an island with my kids and writing, reconnecting with H in a low stress environment...
What I likely lose is starting my long journey toward self-sufficiency and a "new" life (though I could be writing/studying).
I'm sure it is as much a trap for me as it is for him...tempting as it is...and, more importantly, the offer has not been presented only alluded to and without any reference to our together-ness. So, for now, no.
