Young couple in need of help

[sumguy27]

Steve she only threats when she doesn't get her way. She knows I'm a good dad and I will do anything for my kids. So in a sense she is using them as pawns to get what she wants. I was scared that one time but I'm not scared of her anymore of these threats.

Yes Rob I now see that she is testing me. I've gotten detached enough and have more control of my emotions now. I have been very calm since the last couple times my wife and I had talked. I think she is acting like my son when I don't let him have his way.

I also have noticed the less I don't contact her the more she contacts me. The more I have pulled away the more she has pulled towards me. Yes she may be angry or even hate me at this moment, but I think she has to learn that this is what she wants.

I'm kind of done pointing things out to her because its like I'm repeating myself over and over again. And like what others have said I can't hammer it into her brain. She knows it but to me seems like she chooses not to acknowledge it. Reality is hitting her hard now. I'm just sitting on the side lines watching and waiting.