Originally Posted By: Serenity13
I am tired of people questioning why I am still waiting for my H to pull his head out of his butt. I am tired of people using what he has done as an excuse. I am tired of hearing that I am an idiot or a fool or a doormat etc.. for wanting my marriage to still work out even though he is doing whatever it is he does.


This is a good reason to not involve friends or family members more than necessary; I learned this the hard way -- I don't discuss my martial problems with my parents any more, after my dad sent me an email that basically said "if she doesn't want to be there, kick her out and move back home with us."

No matter how "even-minded" you may try to be when discussing your spouse, they will remember all of the bad parts if you do manage to reconcile; this will be esp. hard if there is an EA or PA in the mix.

You should leave the really painful discussion to your counselor, your minister, and people like us.


Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."