I don't think she ever truly believed you were cheating. She used that as a way to justify her own poor decisions.
Blackie, I'm so sorry for you right now. I know it must hurt like the dickens.
I hope this opens the lines of communication between you two and that you are able to come to a resolution.
REMEMBER: It aint over til the fat lady sings.
The best thing you can do right now is stay calm and don't allow her to bait you into any awful fights--that will feed into her feelings that she was justified in her behavior. Continue to be the good person that you are and let her see CLEARLY what she has done.
