John you are still rewarding her behavior by even taking her call. She knows you will crack if she calls enough times. While you are improving and doing pretty well, its still clear that she knows she can finally reach you and harass you by just calling enough times. At this point it is not enough to keep answering her about the FB friend with "I don't want to". She is just going to keep asking. And as much as you will not want to hear this or admit to it, you know that keeping her ticked off about that is going to continue her contacting you.
My advice is that you get an attorney and then start moving toward getting a restraining order. Seems nothing short of this is going to make her back off. You are not effectively backing her off, John. You are actually feeding into it, even if you say the "right thing" when she calls, its still feeding into it and on some level you know this.
What will it take, John? What will have to happen before you do effectively stop her madness and you yourself stop joining in it?
