W just told me she wants out

[CABBR]

One more thing I have OM phone# on phone bill, I've been tempted to call and leave message. Deep down I think bad idea. Am I right?

What PDT told me was that under no circumstances should you contact the OM. Think President of the United States negotiating with terrorists. Anyone who would take up with a married woman is a predator. They will laugh at you and that is not something you want.

What you do want is for your W to feel the possibility of losing you, which means following the advice of what others have already posted. Start doing it - now.

If the OM is married, then exposure is an option, which can change the dynamics of the affair radically but it will cause a $h!t storm with your W.

Do you have kids? I didn't notice that information in the prior posts.

CABBR