This is good advice. THIS is what I was trying to say to you, Blackie, when I asked you to outline what sort of person you were going to be in the future. I agree with the others to not give her that letter just yet.
But I wanted to encourage you to have a plan of action, instead of some vague goals to "have a better sex life", cause what does that really mean, you know!
It sounds like you came up with some good solid ideas on how things are going to be different and this is a very positive direction to take. This way, if she ever wants to talk about your R and why she should trust you, you will have an answer at the ready. You will have already thought thru how you are changing (and have changed) and she will be impressed with your thoughtfulness and willingness to tackle this problem.
As far as the other stuff...well, I can see how it would get your PMA down but try not to read more into it than what is there. All of us, whether happily married or not, sometimes will stretch the truth to make our side of the story look better. Don't dwell on that too much. Keep the marital problems between you and your wife. I don't see how involving other people can have any positive effects.
I also agree with the "getting a life" part. It will be easier for you to keep up your PMA if you really ARE happier and more fulfilled, as an individual. And, speaking as a woman, there is nothing sexier than a guy who is happy and confident and full of life.
