Quote: I would like to ask her to shoot pool and have a couple beer with me and my cousin. She likes him. Maybe she'll go.
Yes I think that sounds like just the thing. If you ask her when she is in a good mood I am pretty sure she would agree. I know there's not much time available but it sounds like the sort of outing you could squeeze in somewhere. Also it's nice and casual, no pressure. Even if she said no the first time theres no reason you couldn't repeat the invitation later when your R is a little better. At first this could happen but it may not be a disaster, I think that she may just like the fact that you thought of her and wanted her to be there, even if she is not quite ready to go along.
As for the other stuff put all that behind you and move on!! It is easy to understand why she might lie under pressure. In future don't let things go that way.
I have been thinking that what you might do is to make a commitment to take care of your health better in future. Don't let yourself get depressed again. Don't brush it under the carpet, and don't underestimate the effect this illness had on you both. Ask yourself how you would behave towards your W if your desire levels did fall off again for some reason. How would you keep the intimacy in your M. One day you may discuss it with her, so how would you explain to her that she does not have to worry about these things in future.
Another good thing to do might be to look for ways to make your own life better and more fulfilling. You don't want to be sitting around feeling bored too often. Get yourself a life. Then when your W is back with you again you will have something to share with her.
