my W doesn't regret her affair

[ClingingToHope]

Future, thanks for the encouragement. As you know, it's just so hard to talk to a WAS or look them in the face when all you see is cold calculation.

Thanks to this site and support on it I've pulled back from a few rash decisions and I've finally adopted rule No. 1 as the rule of my life -- no pursuit, move on.

I spent this weekend in Chicago with an old HS friend and then Sunday in Cincy. The Chicago trip was such fun I'm planning on going back in December or January.

The holidays don't look so daunting now either. I'll find a way to get through them.

I am psyched that your W seems to be coming back to you. I really, really hope that you make it. The pictures are a great sign, I hope.

On Friday, when I went over to my old house to see sick kids, W had packed up even more of my stuff, including pictures. She's still in the "erasing the past" stage. I'm leaving it for a couple of days just because I don't like that she does that. It's as if she wants to put me on the defensive the moment I walk in.

So although I still Cling To Hope, I'm emptying an investment account to retain a L. It's time to be prepared for all contingencies.