Wife out till 3;30 in the morning

[JTJ]

Steve,

I agree with this. When I was using this strategy it was working very well. I need to stop worrying about her. If she is out to 3:30 or seeing other man. Nothing I'm going to say or do is going to change that.

Going dark inside the relationship is a great strategy. I'm not arguing with you. I'm giving you what you are giving me. Nothing! Your right there is no relationship so why say anything. I can't say to much because of my past history. I've seen zero results I'm going to just shut down. Avoid her and let her see my back. Why look for lunch or her sleeping in bed with me. I need to detach and stop caring. If she wants to sleep on the couch great. If she wants to stay out with her friends great. Om or no other man. I won't know and can't find out unless I hire a PI.

Take control of my thoughts, my actions, and avoid relationship talk, complaining to her about being out til 3:00 to 4 in the morning. Stop worrying about her and get rolling on me.

She is not willing to listen. So I should allow her to enjoy the silence.

I reek of worry and fear right now. I should act as if a WAS.

If she texts me not text back. If she talks to me make eye contact and nod my head.

Steve my wife stopped wearing her rings back in June. I've thought about taking mine off. Stop whining and start living. She still takes care of the kids. I'm going to start saving for an attorney.

I think we need to discuss more the Limboland reversal. I need to move on.

What things can I do to show that.

Thanks

JJ