As I've read all of your posts recently, I can't help but wonder WHY you want a R with this woman. She has been depressed and / or reacting negatively to tons of things in her life. She keeps pushing you away. Just sounds like you've been walking on eggshells the whole time. I can see being reflective about a R, but this?
I don't know, could just be my own perspective....I guess: I saw a man for a few weeks (going back quite a few months ago). He was nice, thoughtful...texted me a sweet good morning and goodnight, etc. But most of our conversations found him complaining about something, how he always got a raw deal....I didn't want that in my life. There were some other things, but that was the biggest reason I didn't continue the R.
Haven't we been through the wringer enough? Take care of YOU....