Hey K..well that sounds promising? That he spent the weekend with you and you felt sufficiently glad about it to "initiate cuddles"? I still dont get why you keep calling him stbx, especially if you plan to sleep with him Tuesday night! Is it a pride thing? You dont want to fall back in too easily?
On you "being caring, but not too much"...it took me a while to realise, but when we first reconciled, I was showing him as much love and attention and reassurance as he was me almost. I felt he was almost a bottomless pit soaking up my love, he was sooo relieved to get his life and love back and needed to be reassured about me wanting him back. Put yourself in his shoes, look what he put you through, he may feel insecure too. Its ironic, it shouldnt have to be like that, it should be coming 10 fold back at you hey, but I think piecing does need to be a two way street of giving. I said to bf on Sunday that I still feel like I have to give him alot of love and cuddles and he cried, because he knows its unfair, but true!
And the fact he chose to come back to a very hard situation and knows he has to prove himself and work at the R, after a 3 year A and a 2 year separation and yet he STILL wants to be with you? I'd say that was love. I'm not surprised the good moments are bitter sweet though, but give it time hey, as Jeff says? Let the bad memories die down a bit. Saturn leaves Virgo this week..our 2 1/2 year nightmare is over !!! Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
