The waiting is over

[ACJ]

well it seems I really was a source of irritation and inconvenience to XH. D14 came home from his house last night to tell me he is getting M on Thursday morning. He claims to have only found out yesterday. He will have allowed exactly 22 days to elapse since our D. That just one day for each year of our M life together. Talk about a shot gun wedding.

He told D14 yesterday morning whilst OW told XMIL. S17 was still in bed at this point so they told him in the afternoon. D19 finally got a call about 8pm last night. By this time I knew.

XH took D14 out to buy her a dress for the wedding. The one she wanted he wouldn't buy cos it was black. So she settled on a navy blue and white one. OW says it's too short and says she can't wear it. It is short but she is 14 and has a stunning figure. More to the point ITS THE FASHION! XH then decided that whe will probably recind both D14s and XMILs invite to the wedding. WTF????????????????????????

S17 said they told him D14 and XMIL were going to the wedding and then watied expectantly for him to say he would go to. He didn't give them what they wanted. This shocked me given that he has been living with them for 18 months.

D19 just said 'Oh'. She then sent him a TM imploring him to think again and trying to point out the error os his ways. His reply was nasty. He told the reason he can't help her out at uni is b/c I've got £40k of his money (the amount I have agreed to buy him out of the house with). He told her I never looked after her when she was little. I took an 11yr career break to bring up my children. If I wasn't looking after them what the hell was I doing? She knows it was all backlash but it hurt us both tp hear it.

Me? I sobbed. Not for me but for my children. Thank goodness I had my party on Friday. If I'd heard this news then I wouldn't have gone. As it is I had a fabulous night.

It's very clear to me that XH has not moved one inch within replay for the entire 4+ yrs he has been there.