Hello there! Thank you for posting and helping me out. I really appreciate your answers and insights. It is good to know that the thoughts can be there even if contact is not. Again, thank you.
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When and if she is ready, she will seek you out. You have to believe that and back off.
Thank you. This gives me the confidence to do just that.
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Seriously.. you need to let her contact you. If she truly needs the space she says she does, it will do you no good to keep contacting her. If you don't hear in a couple of weeks.. maybe a "how are you" e-mail or call. You'll know how to proceed from there based on her response.
That is my plan. I will not initiate any contact w/her for two weeks and then touch base w/a text or by sending the card I've bought. I will wait it out, but it will be tough on me, I can tell you that.
I've done a ton of reading (when I should have been doing contract work...YIKES) and I've figured out that I'm well over 50% in love w/GF and the under 50% is need and lust. What exact percentage over, I'm not sure, but I know it isn't 55-45, but stronger. The need and lust are easy to replace now that I can get my head on straight and stop thinking just w/my heart.
You and the others have convinced me to take the position that she's not going to want to continue w/us, so I'll begin to do what I should have been doing all along...focusing on me again. I've got a lot of contract work to do and some work on the exercise bike for my knee, so I'll look to do that to stay occupied.
If I prepare for the worst, then I'll be in a better position to not be too disappointed if that should happen.
I got off track in focusing on me b/c it seemed like just when we cleared one hurdle, another one came up for GF. Thus, it could very well be an omen for me to get out. It could also be a test of my Scorpio nature to want to nest quickly. I'd like to find out if my being patient will work for us, but I won't hitch on for the long haul if it isn't going to work.
That said, it would be nice to see what we could develop w/out all the other drama in GF's life. I may never get to see that, but b/c I'd like to find out, I'm not willing to throw things away just yet.
I may go out on a "friendly" date to stay busy, but not to start anything new until I know where I stand officially w/GF. I'd never want to be dishonest w/her so I'll make sure I don't get into a situation where I'd be tempted to lie. But going out will keep me human and may end up leading me to someone I'm supposed to be w/instead of GF. Then again, I may not b/c I'm wanting to wait for GF at least for a little while. I'll cross that bridge when it comes b/c there is a fine line b/t being faithful and not. I'm not going to do something that would cause GF to not trust me if we do look to continue as a pair. That is for sure.
If I keep the mindset in the correct position, I know I'll be ok.
Thanks again for your post and for all of those out there who care enough to put in their two cents.
