Thanks Dia. Everyone is saying "Stay detached!" I am trying, and I think I'm doing okay. I've been at this so long now, I'm actually pretty good at it, but it seems a day doesn't go by now without my W reaching out to me in one way or another. Makes detachment hard to maintain.
I agree totally about the "Remember when?" stuff. Nothing has seemed as much of a sea change in my W as when that started a couple months ago. Her face and demeanor are light and happy when she brings those memories up, and she wants to share the memories with me. That and the fact that she unpacked our family portaits, with me in them, and has them prominently displayed in the living room at her place.
