Another waw/mlc and I need support

[cyclone]

Hi sandi2,

I've read a lot of your posts. They've been helpful. I have read DR and I've been pretty good at following the do's and dont's on your list.

I figured out how to add some specifics in my signature. I wasn't really doing aynthing particular to get her back or have her move back in. I think it was because she has been having a tough time being away from the kids and having them hate her for moving out and on top of it all she is probably being coached that moving away from the kids was a bad move. I don't really try to get inside her head to think about it too much though.

I am having a hard time with getting sucked back in. Just the other day I was making dinner for the kids and myself and she came up behind me to give me a hig as I was at the stove. I didn't turn around but did caress her arm as she was hugging me. Later she brought the fact that I wasn't more responsive as a typical old behavior. This is why I am so confused and when I had the opportunity to be more affectionate I took it. It has really confused her and now she is spending the night back at the room she has rented for the month (she has it until the end of the month). It is her thing to process and go through but I don't want to pressure. Just part of the ride right?