Refuse To Lose, Part XIII: Finally Free?

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You don't know me but I really had to respond to your questions.. So, for what it's worth:

I mean, have you gone w/out talking to a man, but still were thinking about him?

Absolutely. When and if she is ready, she will seek you out. You have to believe that and back off.

Can a week or more go by and the feelings still be there or is it that easy for a female to shut off the switch?

Women don't have a switch. I thought men did.

Finally, it is killing me to sit back and not contact her. So, do I stay the course and not initiate contact, or should I check in and see how she's doing?

Seriously.. you need to let her contact you. If she truly needs the space she says she does, it will do you no good to keep contacting her. If you don't hear in a couple of weeks.. maybe a "how are you" e-mail or call. You'll know how to proceed from there based on her response.

What is the real life feeling situation? Do women need a lot of times sometimes to sort things out? Just because she's not in contact w/me does that mean she's not still thinking of me and us?

There are times when we all need a lot of space but a possibility is that she may sort things out and end up not desiring to have you in her life. You have to remember that could be her conclusion and so, you kind of have to live your life like that could be the end result. She could be very well be thinking about you.. or not.. If she is still confused about her life, she may just not know what she wants. How long are you willing to wait?