Both of us have gifts from the OPs in our possession. I'm not talking about expensive watches, lingerie or major jewelry, I'm talking books and non-sexy pajamas.
OM never bought me major gifts, but most of them have found their way to thrift stores. What's remaining are two cookbooks and two pairs of mundane pajamas.
H and I were sorting through cookbooks as we rearranged the kitchen shelves, and when I put the OM cookbooks on the shelf H remarked that he'd never seen those before. This was actually unconscious on my part. I don't have a huge attachment to them, and it had even slipped my mind that that's where they'd come from until he mentioned never seeing them before.
I immediately looked at him and said...
Dia: You know, OM gave those to me for Christmas. I'll put them in the giveaway box.
H (taking my hands): They can stay. I accept you. He is a part of your past, and in accepting you, I accept him and them, too.
His response is a little mind-boggling for me. While sorting through the cookbooks, I found one I'm virtually certain OW gave him. I was nowhere nears as magnanimous in my thoughts as he was with me. I put the book in the giveaway box and he didn't retrieve it.
I think the cookbooks and the jammies need to go, regardless of his generous statement. I'm not going to comb through the house looking for possible gifts of hers to make him get rid of, but these items will remind *me* of OM every time I touch them.
What do you folks think?
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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