Another waw/mlc and I need support

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I've been lurking on this site for a few months now, but it is time to post because I need support.

My brief sitch: I got the ILYBNILWY bomb on 8/19. Wife said she had felt so one for so long that she couldn't take it anymore. Also said that she wasn't sure if she wanted to be married anymore. She felt like she needed to live the single life and didn't want to do anything to hurt me. She was still living on the house for the first couple of weeks bu then moved out. All this time she was insistant that I move out. I wouldn't because i felt S7 and S9 needed stability which she couldn't provide since she has been largely absent from their activities for some time. Things had gotten steadily worse.

I've done a pretty good job (I think) of DBing. I don't initiate contact, I've looked into myself and made changes to myself for me, I've made a bunch of other small changes. She has noticed and feels that it is proof that she is doing the right thing by leavin. Or feels that it proves that I didn't love her because I didn't make the changes earlier.

Anyway, after 2 months if things getting worse she starts to think that I've contacted a lawyer then decides she is going to move back into the house. She's been sortof back for a week now. Some days there is little contact and others things are almost like before. Last night was one of those nights. We were watching a movie as a family and she asked if someone would rub her feet. It's something I used to do a slot in the beginning of our relationship. Maybe I was backsliding but I said I would like to. I meant it, I really do enjoy doing it.

Today is back to little contact. She missed S9's baseball game today to go to a dance event and picnic with her "new" friends. he has a lot of anger toward her and I think part of the reason she moved back was because she has been having a tough time being away from the kids and knowing that theybare angry at her for leaving.

I don't get sucked into talking about the R. It hurts when she continues to talk about our not being together in the future and how the kids will be ok, but I try not to let it show. I've been keeping as much a PMA as possible but it is tough with her in the house now.

I want this to work out and am willing to stand for as long as I can. Your support and encouragement would be helpful.