Gima,
The way I figure, you stickwith Greeks advice and one of two things will happen:

1) A much better Gima will be out of (honorably) catering-to-wife-limbo-land You will be (fortunately or unfortunately-only time will tell - a man headed for a D which was always a possibility from day 1.

2) You may shake her taking your temp. staying 3 steps ahead world to he core. Maybe she'll change and you'll be pursued.

Anyway, I agree with Greek. You gotta get moving, get processes started, let her see them getting started, detach, go dim, mysterious and aloof and shake up her status quo to the core.

Time for THE Gima 180..

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac