You gave yourself the answer to that issue at the end, you have trouble knowing how little or how much to respond - keep it simple just like you said. Don't tell him which one you prefer.
He responded that he is open to other counselors than the one we did see and he wants me "to let him know". It's in my hands again. I don't know how to respond because I feel that being in control of the choice might be pursing? He also sent me a TM "confirming" that he will visit the kids tomorrow. I answered that with just an okay. So that part I can keep simple. I read your analogy on someone else's thread of the WAS being like a squirrel and I'm trying not scare him away. But I was surprised that he made two contacts with me today. Interesting, but no expectations here though.
Originally Posted By: robx
No expectations and continue GAL, enjoy your life, you are responsible for your own happiness, you don't him to make you happy, if he wants to do his part as a husband, he will add hapiness to your life (note to anyone reading this, that's the role of any spouse, they aren't responsible for your happiness, they can however add happiness & enhance your life but you are ultimately responsible for your own great & happy life, never give that responsibility to anyone, high expectations and high pressure usually give way to failure)
Yes! I agree you are so right. I'm trying to apply that. I was out again today GAL with the kids. We had a nice picnic in the park and saw a pet costume contest. More stuff H wouldn't do with us anyway--fun new experiences and nothing to remind us of him and make us sad.
M40, H39 M17 T20 D13, S12 H moved out 05/09 D filed 1/10
