My wife is planning on moving out on, or very close to her birthday in June. She actually said that will be the day. I guess she's going to celebrate turning 40 by starting her new life. I can get her a birthday/housewwarming present - her half of everything we own.
I feel your pain etrain. I am also having a very difficult day. My birthday was on Friday and my W didn't even acknowledge it when I met her to pick up my 1 yo son. It was very disturbing for me.
She has been living with her parents since she moved out about 4 weeks ago and now she told me today that she is moving into a house (in the same town her parent's live in - about an 1 from me - I am still in our house we owned together)that her brother-in-law owns and is on the market, so he figured instead of having it empty he would let her live in it for free! I really hate the fact that people are totally enabling her and making her separation from me much easier. It is somewhat gut wrenching.
I am at the point where I just want to tell her off! It is so frustrating.
Me 44/W 32 S1 M8 Bomb 9/25/09 Separate houses (about 1 hour apart)
I am having a horrible day. I'm angry, hurting and ready to scream. I feel like my wife has all the control. Like I am her puppet.
All we can do is "man up" and look for the positives in our lives and take it one moment at a time. I know that sounds corny, but we have no other choice.
I agree! I have my good days and my bad days, like all of us I am sure.
Anyways, etrain, I didn't intend on hijacking your thread. Hang tough buddy - you too Indy. We will prevail - it will not be easy, but we will do it. (with or without our W's)
Me 44/W 32 S1 M8 Bomb 9/25/09 Separate houses (about 1 hour apart)
Thanks for the support. I really need it today. We just had the talk with our 4 year old S. He's so young that it didn't really phase him...but I'm a complete wreck right now.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
Well, it wasn't easy but I made it through last night. I spent most of my time w/ my S. I'm trying to spend as much time w/ him as I can before W is out of the house & we're on the custody schedule. W & I split up some of our kitchen stuff last night. She's not taking much, which is good. I'll be financially strapped as it is & don't need the added expense of having to replace a bunch of stuff. 1 more week of this.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
If you read my thread you will see how much worse my situation got last night. Wife has now decided to move out in January instead of June. I thought I had 8 months to work on things, and now I don't.
I now know she is 100% done and can't wait to be gone. I am making today the day I start living without her as my wife. I am going to let my workmates know what I have been hiding from them. Somehow I think that will help.
For all of us having a bad day, we must believe that some day the sun will shine on us again. Anyone who works so hard to save their marriage deserves a reward of some type.
