A couple of questions to all the LBS

[Gardener]

How long has it been since the WAS was out of your life?
10 1/2 Months

Now that you have moved on, are you in a better place mentally, since the WAS left?
Yes.

How much time did it take for you to get to this better mental place?
About 9 months

What do you miss the most & what are you glad to see gone?
Miss most? Companionship, touch, talking, snuggling, listening to her, her being there on her side of the bed or the passenger side of the truck. Her being there! Her boundless optimism, her humming, her smile. The honor, privilege and ecstasy of being inside her sexually.

Glad to see gone the last few months of inexplicable distancing between us. My judging of her and resulting resentment. I've discovered that in all my resentments, if I'm honest, I am resenting myself. For accepting x and not changing it, for not speaking up and speaking out. For not acting in a healthy, honest way. Intimacy is choosing to live in truth with another

Has the whole experience changed the way you view relationships?And how?Yes. I thought - truly thought they were/this one was forever.I felt responsible for much of her happiness and gave her the same burden with me. We were together too much. A self contained unit. We were both selfless and selfless becomes self-less. More emphasis must be placed on - and lived by - the two "I's" involved in order to come together as a healthy "We".

Thanks for your time [/quote]