Still in the tunnel with hubby

[kjensen]

Thanks Chel.

More drama in our lives. This morning at 2AM D14 calls me from her cell phone. I'm thinking she's down the hall in bed. She's not. She's at a lake/park that's a 15 minute walk from our house. I arrive to pick her up not knowing what the hell is going on and there are two cops, righting citations to D14 and her best guy friend(at least thats all I think he is). They are cited for curfew violations.

This is not the D14 I know. She is a straight-A, hard-working kid who NEVER gets in trouble. She said she needed to talk last night to her guy friend and they met at the park. She snuck out, without a coat( it was 40 degrees and drizzling) at midnight. She said she didn't want to cut her wrists...She's depressed. She hates school(just started High school and is in all advanced classes and marching band) and hates our new townhome. She doesn't fit in anywhere...

My heart is aching for her and we will get her help. My H has been touchy since this happened and the unstated thing I believe that is going through his mind is that it was a mistake to move home, it is a mistake to keep trying at this marriage. He's made a few comments since this morning that have given me this idea so its not out of left field.

H and I just signed up for an all-day refresher communication class an hour from where we live. I was surprised H didn't see the distance we'd have to travel as a reason for not going even though our MC recommended we do this before our next session.

So I'd love input from other parents of teens regarding how separation or reconciliation affected their children. I know this journey is so hard for s who stand, and its hard on our children...